I think I've mentioned the conversation I once had with the lovely Claudia Mills who says too often we only treat ourselves like writers when we've published. But if we write, we're writers. Period. And we can have writerly lives. For example, she and her friends organized a little poetry reading for themselves and had a fine time.
I felt like I was having myself a writer's life last week when I met the lovely Sara Zarr for a writing date. This is something Sara does fairly regularly--takes her computer to a coffee house and goes to work, sometimes joined by other writers. It's fun and I at least end up being surprisingly productive because I can't divert myself with laundry and so forth.
Try it. I'm guessing you'll be happy you did.